I had so many conversations with women in all stages of life about this topic that I had to make this a blog post and video for the week.

Society often places immense pressure on single women, implying that marriage and motherhood are the ultimate sources of fulfillment. However, I firmly believe that fulfillment in life is not limited to these traditional roles.

Regardless of your marital or parental status, you have the ability to create a deeply fulfilling life. Hear me when I say that even if you’re not where you want to be, don’t pause your life in the interim. You can still explore the myriad of possibilities and embrace the full spectrum of what life has to offer.

Please know that there is a caveat to all of this: Trust God. I know. I know. You’re sick of hearing it. All I’m saying is that even with the points that I list out, make sure you’re seeking God in your decisions. He will literally direct your path. The wait can be soooo frustrating. And we don’t know what He’ll ultimately permit for our lives, but a fulfilling life starts with God.

So with that foundation, let’s see how you can wade through this part of life victoriously.

Discovering Your Passions
Regardless of your relationship or parental status, it’s important to explore and discover your passions. Take the time to delve into your interests, hobbies and dreams. Whether it’s traveling, pursuing a career, engaging in creative pursuits, or making a difference in your community, the opportunities are endless. This is your time to chase your dreams and pursue your passions with unwavering dedication.

Personal Growth and Self-Discovery
Embracing your singlehood provides a unique opportunity for personal growth and self-discovery. Focus on nurturing your mind, body, and soul. Invest in yourself—physically, emotionally and intellectually. Engage in activities that challenge you, broaden your perspectives and help you become the best version of yourself. Remember, your happiness and fulfillment should never be dependent on anyone else.

Building Lasting Connections
While being single, it is essential to build meaningful connections and relationships beyond romantic partnerships. Cultivate deep friendships, join supportive communities and surround yourself with people who inspire and uplift you. These connections will enrich your life and offer support, love and companionship. Try building the family you choose before you creating a traditional one.

Impactful Contributions
Your worth and fulfillment are not tied to marital or parental status. You have the power to make a difference in the world in various ways. Channel your passions, skills and expertise into causes that ignite your soul. Advocate for social justice, support organizations and mentor younger women who look up to you. Your contributions can leave a lasting impact and shape the world for future generations.

Your worth and fulfillment extend far beyond societal expectations. Embrace your journey—be it singlehood, marriage, or motherhood—as an opportunity for growth, self-discovery and making a lasting impact on the world. 

Be content in your stage of life as you strive to get where you want to be. Your path is beautiful, valid and deserving of celebration. 

Stop rolling your eyes because you think I’m talking what I don’t know. In this week’s video, I’m actually interviewing a therapist who happens to be a childless single black woman of a particular age (LOL!). We’re sitting down to delve into the dynamics of how to move forward when you think you’ve done everything right in life, but you still don’t have the life you dreamed of.

Everyone, including myself, has been there, and I pray that this conservation will bless you through the season you’re pushing through.

See you this weekend!