Word on the street is that the dating market is rough out there. So, would you ever entertain an arranged marriage?

We usually cringe when a parent tries to set us up with someone, but why is that?

Arranged marriages, in which a third party such as parents or matchmakers are involved in finding a suitable spouse for an individual, have been a longstanding tradition in many cultures around the world. While some people view them as outdated or restrictive, there are also some advantages to this approach.

Let’s be clear. I’m not saying I’m for them. My parents didn’t arrange my marriage. All I’m saying is that arranged marriages have some perks, and the topic wouldn’t hurt to be explored a bit. So, here are some of the benefits that I see in them.

Compatibility and Shared Values
One of the main advantages of arranged marriages is that the individuals involved are typically matched based on shared values, beliefs and cultural background. This can help to ensure a greater level of compatibility between the partners, which can lead to a stronger and more fulfilling marriage. In contrast, when couples meet through dating or online apps, they may have very different backgrounds and values, which can lead to conflicts down the road.

Support from Families and Community
That whole “in-laws not liking each other” issue is virtually eliminated in arranged marriages. Families and communities are often involved in the decision-making process, which can provide a strong support network for the couple. The families may also offer guidance and support throughout the marriage, which can be particularly valuable during difficult times. Additionally, the couple may have a larger social network through their families and communities—providing a sense of belonging and support.

Lower Divorce Rates
Studies have shown that arranged marriages tend to have lower divorce rates compared to marriages that are not arranged. This may be due to the fact that arranged marriages are often based on shared values and compatibility, as well as the involvement of families and communities, which can provide a sense of accountability and support for the couple. It’s important to note that cultures with arranged marriages usually heavily stigmatize divorce, so there’s no guarantee that the couples that stay together are actually healthy and functional.

Reduced Pressure of Dating
Dating can be a stressful and superficial process. In arranged marriages, the pressure of finding a suitable partner is taken off the individual and put on the family or matchmaker, which can be a relief for some people. I read that arranged marriages often have a longer courtship period, which allows the couple to get to know each other better before making a final decision. However, I know plenty of people who have been with Tyrone for 10+ years with no commitment in sight, so the length of courtship means nothing. LOL!

Shared Responsibility and Commitment
In arranged marriages, both partners often feel a sense of responsibility and commitment towards the marriage. To them, it’s not just a union between two individuals, it’s a union between two families and communities. This can help to create a strong foundation for the marriage and a shared sense of purpose.

Yes, you can learn to love someone. And ultimately, the success of any marriage depends on the individuals involved and their willingness to work together towards a committed and fulfilling relationship.

Easy for me to say, right? That’s why I want to hear from you. If the dating market is rough, would you resort to an arranged marriage? Why or why not?

I would say that this week’s video is about this topic. Ideally, it would be; but schedules may not align. I’ll definitely be revisiting this topic for a more in-depth discussion, though. In the meantime, I’ll be doing a video about my natural hair care regimen (for real this time…HA!)