Don’t be alarmed by the title. I don’t have an update to give about my marriage. LOL! But this is a topic that has been on my mind for a while.
Can you be in a happy marriage but live in separate homes? 🤔
I’m not talking about going on a trip for a while. I’m referring to a couple that has two separate living spaces a majority of the time.
I’ll never forget the first time I even realized this could be a thing. I was working in television news, and one of the on-air talent’s spouses came to the news station. 👋🏾
As we were wrapping up our conversation, she said, “Let me be on my way. I have a 35-minute drive to get home, and that’s without adding time for traffic.”
I said, “35 minutes? I had no clue you guys lived so far away!” 
She looked back without hesitation and said, “Oh. He lives 10 minutes away. I’m the one who has to make that drive.”
The thoughts that started running through my head. 🧠
They got a divorce? Looks like it was very amicable.
Were those two just boyfriend and girlfriend? Why are they wearing wedding rings?
How was I not hip enough to know this was what people do?
After snooping around a bit, I found out that the two were still married. They just never lived together.
Mind blown. 🤯
I’ve later heard that among celebrity couples and reality stars, so it had me thinking again.
Can you be happily married and live separately? 
That would be SO much easier in some aspects. There would be none of that “growing pains” period in which the couple is learning each other’s habits by living together. When things are good, sleep over. When things are bad, retreat to your separate quarters.
On the other hand, I would imagine that it wouldn’t allow you to fully know everything about your partner. In-depth conflict resolution skills would wane, and your moments together may stay on that surface level. 
And where are the kids staying? LOL!
I really want to see what you guys think. Then on Friday Sunday, I’ll share my top three pros and cons to being happily married but living apart. 
I usually reveal it all on my blog post, but I have to give you something to look forward to! Plus, I want to make sure I gather everyone’s point of view before I present my findings.
Can you tell I’m intrigued? Share your thoughts, and I’ll see you on Friday Sunday. 
May 27, 2020
Sometimes staying at the surface of a relationship is best. I do not want to know all your bad habits, and you do not need to know mine. At the surface , fewer things to argue. The relationship can stay new. Apart in most casesvyou do not have these growing issues that never get resolved and grows over the years like a cancer. Have more to talk about cause i do not see you daily. None of that “we never talk anymore”. Kids , well , could be better than them watching you struggle with each other.
May 27, 2020
Wow. It looks like you’re all for living apart. You have valid points, but is a marriage really a marriage if it’s surface? The part that would really confuse me is the kids. Who do they live with? Will it mess them and their norms up to see a married couple living separately?