You ever decide to take a break to focus on your health and wellness, and then you look up at the time and realize that eight months have gone by? No? Just me?

I will say that I appreciate my true ones, though. I was constantly asked when I’m coming back. I honestly thought it’d be sooner, but then my husband became a full-time entrepreneur, I had a lot of projects that popped up, my kids started doing more, I still had to prioritize fitness—it’s been a lot.

But I’m back! (Hate it or love it.)

What I’ve learned during this hiatus is that you have to take time for you. Not the occasional spa day, either. I mean completely unplugging and reevaluating life. I stayed busy for sure, but I’m happy to be back to share my thoughts on all things marriage, motherhood, hair and life.

Speaking of marriage: All the single ladies, make some noooooiiiiiise!

While I was away, I got to sit back and consume content (instead of trying to create it). And there was one person who popped up in my messages more than once from multiple people.

His name is Kevin Samuels.

He went viral for calling out a girl for being “average looking at best” while wanting to date a high-value man. I’ve seen some of his other topics, and I can get why he’s polarizing.

I don’t agree with all of his ideologies. Like anything (except the Bible), you have to take it with a grain of salt. One thing that I did agree with him on is that some women are becoming unreasonably picky when looking for a boyfriend or husband.

Should you have non-negotiables? Absolutely. Just know the difference between a “must have” and an “added bonus.”

Height, age, salary, religion, personality, hobby, family, car and house requirements, etc.—those are a lot of variables to get right. And honestly, you probably don’t check off EVERY box for someone else either. So, you’re not the only person compromising.

I blame the “young and dumb” stages for this. When women are in their teens, they want the oxymorons.

“Yes, can I get tall order of thug who has swag, good grades, treats me well and loves God?”

So, inevitably, the nice guys—the husband material guys—finished last.

Ladies, think about who had a crush on you in high school and college. If you weren’t feeling him back, was it for a stupid reason?

Was he not cool enough? Not tall enough? Too nice?

Well then, you might have just friend-zoned your husband.

Besides, high school is a horrible predictor of the future. Popular people turn into bums and are left to relive their heydays for a lifetime. Pretty people gain weight. The thug life catches up with the bad boys and lands them in jail.

I have stories for days about examples of this. I’ll save that for this weekend’s show, though. (Remember those?)

Be sure to let me know your thoughts. Do you think women are too picky? Have you already passed up on your husband?

Let me know below. And tune in this weekend!