Most of the people who read my blog posts or follow my videos did so in my texlaxed days. At the time, there were a lot of people educating others about natural and relaxed hair, but texlaxed hair wasn’t so popular.

Texlaxing, mildly relaxing your hair so that there is still texture left in it, was something I stumbled upon. 🤷🏾‍♀️

I hated having bone straight hair because my head is big. However, my natural hair was too rough and tough for my hair knowledge at the time to handle.

So one day, I put in the relaxer for a shorter amount of time. A beautician would consider it to be underprocessed, but I liked it. I tweaked my methods and came up with the perfect timing and diluted relaxer concoction that gave me my desired result. 💁🏾‍♀️

Texlaxed hair was working for me. My sister and I had it down to a science. She’d do it twice a year for me, split my hair in half, then we’d apply and wash out the relaxer one section at a time.

And then my sister quit on me.

She said she was tired of doing my hair and that she didn’t think there was that much of a difference anyways.

I always wondered when my system would stop working. Would I be 70 years old looking for someone to texlax my hair? What if my relaxer gets discontinued? Will relaxers still exist?

Either way, I was about to leap into my plan B sooner than expected.

I didn’t really have a plan, so I just… stopped.

I stopped texlaxing my hair and prayed for the best as I searched for the best moisturizing products. Before I knew it, I was a year into my natural journey.

I never did a big chop. The two textures blended so effortlessly. So here I am about five years later with a head of natural hair. 💆🏾‍♀️

Which one is better?

To be honest, they both have their perks.

My texlaxed hair was more tame and easy. People weren’t as intimidated when I put it in a ponytail. Also, I got away with putting less product on it.

My natural is a thicker (obviously). Although it was a struggle to handle at the beginning, I’ve learned that I need to let it do its thing. Somedays, that may mean a bun is all it wants to do. Other days, it might let me wear a nice twist out.

And that’s okay.

I think for most women, refining your hair or makeup or fashion sense is a journey of self-love and acceptance.

I have embraced my hair for what it is, and I don’t care what people have to say about it. (Now to work on the makeup and fashion. LOL!)

And the great thing about it is that you don’t have to hate on somebody else’s choice for yours to be good.

Do what you think is best for your hair and lifestyle. ‘Tis all.

This week’s video is about hair—the most polarizing topic for my audience. HA! I’ll be talking more about hair growth and maintenance because my goal is still waist length. (I got a few inches to go.)

I’ll also detail how my hair regimen had to change when I went from texlaxed to natural hair.

See (some of) you this weekend!